tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post3722185573066363763..comments2024-03-07T14:29:06.801+00:00Comments on From the Heart of Soul Sistas: What’s happening to marriage?alotedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-15956912850451092152011-11-12T21:06:40.049+00:002011-11-12T21:06:40.049+00:00Wow thanks for the detailed comments and addressin...Wow thanks for the detailed comments and addressing each point one by one. You are so right on all counts. The next post is up :) Will love to know your thoughts. Thanks!alotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-34980320871682513282011-11-12T21:05:32.926+00:002011-11-12T21:05:32.926+00:00You are welcome LDP :) Hope to see more of you he...You are welcome LDP :) Hope to see more of you herealotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-36909742817822966522011-11-12T21:05:11.495+00:002011-11-12T21:05:11.495+00:00That is a valid point OluSimeon, we have a lot of ...That is a valid point OluSimeon, we have a lot of people acting as liabilities and not assets in marriagealotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-2624999810272081232011-11-12T21:04:18.216+00:002011-11-12T21:04:18.216+00:00True one, BSNC, a lot of people are going into mar...True one, BSNC, a lot of people are going into marriage with ulterior motives and when the trials come they want to exit.alotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-61887909144265296472011-11-12T21:00:54.346+00:002011-11-12T21:00:54.346+00:00You are so right...knowing our roles in marriage h...You are so right...knowing our roles in marriage helps a lot. <br /><br />Sadly no man or woman can actually fill that void in our lives only God can.alotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-78035680348411824642011-11-12T20:59:20.566+00:002011-11-12T20:59:20.566+00:00It shocks me when people don't take time out t...It shocks me when people don't take time out to prepare for the lifelong commitment ahead of them.alotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-34340311535014430942011-11-12T20:58:24.699+00:002011-11-12T20:58:24.699+00:00You can say that again o... Marriage is hard work!...You can say that again o... Marriage is hard work! <br /><br />Amen to your prayer!alotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-14381531112729442622011-11-12T20:57:53.621+00:002011-11-12T20:57:53.621+00:00You have touched on the next topic which I am abou...You have touched on the next topic which I am about to post now. In fact you have summarised it already. Bros, you are in the spirit :)<br />Thanks!alotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-13809993066059606642011-11-12T20:56:52.263+00:002011-11-12T20:56:52.263+00:00Thanks Rita. Yes I wonder why people don't do ...Thanks Rita. Yes I wonder why people don't do these nowadays. They are in a hurry or something?alotednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-32088209689368953942011-11-08T01:49:21.381+00:002011-11-08T01:49:21.381+00:00Very happy I read this. I've learned more on t...Very happy I read this. I've learned more on this inexhaustible issue. Thanks for sharing Sis.<br /><br />- LDPAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07898844588434855654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-6582085621311659872011-11-07T12:11:34.008+00:002011-11-07T12:11:34.008+00:00That part about "carrying last" made me ...That part about "carrying last" made me laugh out loud.. and its the sad truth.<br />All points stated are valid ones, that anyone seeking to have a successful marriage must work with.<br />One i can think of, is people not knowing/developing themselves as individuals. When you get married you are supposed to add more to the other person, and not take more, if though they "love" you. You shouldn't have a draining effect on their life.olusimeonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17090430527099563273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-10159741246974204522011-11-06T21:34:31.117+00:002011-11-06T21:34:31.117+00:00People enter marriages for the wrong reasons. I re...People enter marriages for the wrong reasons. I really like your analysis. They were funny, but so true. You have to know who you are marrying, the family and background. I think counseling is one if the most important thing people miss out these days. Like you said, they are busy planning the wedding not their life as husband and wife.BSNChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543021213550898347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-39927354476112823402011-11-06T20:57:10.113+00:002011-11-06T20:57:10.113+00:00I just read a book that dealt with this topic. Ma...I just read a book that dealt with this topic. Marriage used to be contractual...transactional where the male gets a mate and offsprings that will help with farming or fishing or other tasks, while the female got social and financial security. These days, marriage is used to fill emotional voids. When ur partner no I longer fills that void, there is an overwhelming need to leave and find someone who will.LucidLilithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12767954145947887782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-66879904115717313432011-11-06T18:38:43.420+00:002011-11-06T18:38:43.420+00:004 and 2 I think are the main culprits. Adequate pr...4 and 2 I think are the main culprits. Adequate preparation and knowledge of roles and expectations are key.Mynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595087387069634003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-47903332702832847072011-11-06T16:55:33.617+00:002011-11-06T16:55:33.617+00:00Love your "analysis"
My fav line is
&quo...Love your "analysis"<br />My fav line is<br />"When you ask some people “so why are u getting married”, they say “oh we love each other”, “I like the way he/she makes me feel”. I say “Shuo” (in my Nigerian accent), are you for real? My friend, you are on a looong thing o!"<br />Funny, but true.<br /><br />Marriage is work. Hard work. <br />May God give us the wisdom we need to build marriages that glorify Him.Gbemisokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14429615134179217426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-57930077268017762822011-11-06T16:54:31.637+00:002011-11-06T16:54:31.637+00:00This comment has been removed by the author.Gbemisokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14429615134179217426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-91196674041542829822011-11-06T16:53:06.485+00:002011-11-06T16:53:06.485+00:00Nothing is more responsible for marriage break ups...Nothing is more responsible for marriage break ups as we know it today than the crisis of identity people are facing the world over!<br /><br />Men and women go into marriages without really understanding who they are, which actually defines the roles they play in their marriage. <br /><br />If a man understands that his duty is not just to protect and sustain his wife, but to LOVE her, he will not be destablised in the event that his wife earns her than him or by virtue of her job, can protect him instead of vice versa! <br /><br />If the woman understands that her role as a helpmate is not just to support the man, she will also RESPECT him in building a successful marriage!<br /><br />More of my thoughts as we go on!Emeka Amakezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03933290792820413011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-255264588551654388.post-34160996851165351152011-11-06T16:39:15.172+00:002011-11-06T16:39:15.172+00:00I really like your additional comment about checki...I really like your additional comment about checking out people before marriage takes place. In the 'olden' days, this step was a must, probably because people married from near each other. These days most marriages crumble because parents failed to do a background check. <br /><br />Well done...Ritahttp://eroinspirations.comnoreply@blogger.com