My Birthday Campaign

It's being a minute Writefreak and I were here. We've been on a break and I am actually just here to share something exciting with you. This has nothing to do with relationships or marriage so please indulge me

Soooooo it's my birthday today!!!! Woo hoo. I am extremely grateful to God for his goodness in my life.

I turn a year older and I'm actually wiser. I learned that 800 million people on this planet still don't have access to clean drinking water, and I'm doing something about it.  


 

 

This year, I'm giving up my birthday for charity: water.  Most of us are fortunate to have water and even take it for granted, so I think it will be a cool thing if we help those in need.
Instead of you my dear friends and followers giving me presents, or writing on my Facebook wall, please donate $33 for my 33rd birthday, and help me bring clean water to people in need. 

Of course you can donate any amount you like, that is the most important thing and I will be extremely grateful.

Please go to my campaign for more details on why I am doing this and to donate: http://mycharitywater.org/birthday-pledge-campaign
 

What's really cool is that 100% of the money we raise will directly fund water project costs in the field, and charity: water will prove every single dollar. 

When the project we help fund is complete, they'll send us a digital completion report with GPS coordinates and photos of the community we helped. Here's an example. 

I can't think of a better way to celebrate my birthday than by giving the gift of clean water to people in need. 

Please join me to make my goal a reality. http://mycharitywater.org/birthday-pledge-campaign
Thank you for your support! 

Aloted
P.S. Read this story from charity: water to learn how clean water changes lives.

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Do Male Virgins exist?

Jeffrey "JT" Tyler  29 Year Old Male Virgin Abstinence Advocate

I was reading One + The one's blog post on men and virginity and it got me thinking. There are a number of ladies just like her who would love to marry a virgin man. The fear however is that such men do not exist and I strongly beg to differ. Anytime I hear the statement there are no virgin men out there or it is not expected that men are virgins, it makes me wonder so who are the heterosexual men sleeping with? Themselves?? Surely not. So that means if heterosexual men are sleeping with heterosexual girls then there shouldn’t be an expectation that girls should be virgins while men shouldn’t be. Do you catch my drift?

Anytime I hear the statement there are no virgin men out there or it is not expected that men are virgins or that male virgins are lame, it makes me wonder so who are the heterosexual men sleeping with? Themselves?? 

So logic tells me if heterosexual men are sleeping with heterosexual girls then there shouldn’t be an expectation that girls should be virgins while men shouldn’t be. Do you catch my drift?

 

Logic aside, I have some good news for V girls looking for V men- they do exist!!! They may not carry a placard around announcing their purity status but they are out there.

Researchers of the Centre of Disease control found that between 2006 and 2008, the percentage of 15- to 24-year-old men who had never had any form of sexual contact* with another person was 27 percent (up from 22 percent in 2002) while the percentage of 15- to 24-year-old females who had never had any sex whatsoever* was 29 percent (up 7 percent points from 22 percent in 2002).

*These includes oral and anal sex.

Interesting stats don't you think?

There are advantages to marrying a virgin just like yourself.

When it comes to love making, you may fail at it together, laugh over it together and learn together. 

The fact that you have kept yourself for each other helps instill trust in yourselves.

You both probably have a sense of sexual responsibility, and a high level of self-discipline. If you didn’t sleep around before marriage that would probably be the case after marriage.

You don’t have to worry about where your partner learnt one “hot” skill during love making.

Now please note that I am not saying being a virgin or marrying a virgin is a SURE guarantee that your marriage will be successful. There are certainly other factors involved in the success of a marriage.

//Side note//

I know some people don’t care much about marrying virgins. They want someone with awesome breathtaking bedroom experience! Lol. That’s fine and your choice. In fact this post isn’t directed at you at all but we don’t mind you reading :)

//End side note//

What I am trying to pass across in this post is that if your heart desire is to marry a virgin just like you- there is hope!  You are not the only one out there.

More and more people (both male and female) are keeping their V statuses and more people are abstaining from premarital sex.

Also it’s possible that you are no longer a virgin but now abstaining from sex till marriage. There are also other people out there like you.

Even though it appears more people are making the decision to remain virgins or abstain from premarital sex, that choice still isn’t so popular. Some people don’t get what the hype is all about but I will encourage you to stick to your conviction.

God who is faithful sees your commitment to sexual purity and keeping yourself for your future spouse. I believe he will honour your desire by giving you someone to marry who is committed to doing the same thing.

More reading

http://www.nbcnews.com/id/41879879/ns/health-sexual_health/#.UQvHxeiHzSw

http://whatthehealthmag.wordpress.com/2011/03/10/is-virginity-the-new-black/

http://chastity.com/seminars/statistics/statistics  

http://soulsistasheart.blogspot.co.uk/2009/05/lets-talk-about-sex.html

A reader's question- Am I over spiritualizing dating?

I got this question sometime last year but due to reasons that are totally my fault I am only getting around to posting this. First of all I apologise to the person who sent the question in for posting this late after promising that I would put this up. Please forgive me. I have no excuse really. I sincerely hope it is not too late for answers.


My people so here's the question for you. This reader needs our sincere advice.

Look forward to your answers. Thanks
Aloted


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Just wanted to say I came across your blog, your posts are really encouraging, positive, and changed my perspective on a lot of things. Thank you for sharing.

So I just wanted to know what your thoughts are on overspiritualizing dating/relationships.

I ask this because a few of my friends say that I over spiritualize every aspect of meeting a guy/dating and perhaps this is why i'm still single.

I'm 25, never been in a relationship, not because I've never wanted to but it just never seemed to happened for me (perhaps God allowed this to save me from the pain of heartbreaks until he sent me my partner?) . Perhaps because of my "lack of experience" and because of the fact that i'm an emotional person, i feel very strongly about guarding my heart, I'm very cautious of who I choose to pursue a relationship with. 

I feel very strongly about only dating the person I will eventually marry, partly because I know that my heart can't handle emotional rollercoasters that comes with break ups. This does not mean i'm not friendly to guys who approach me.  

I also feel strongly about becoming friends with a guy first, and if God wills something else may follow, but i'm very selective on who I go on dates with, and I pray about every single aspect of meeting a person and interacting with them, to even dating them. 

I'm "old fashioned" and I strongly believe that a man should have the desire to pursue me and not vice versa but my friends feel like this mindset will keep me single for a while.

Sometimes I think that perhaps I need to get out more and meet more people because God is not just going to drop someone in your lap, but at the same time I don't always have the time to do this. I believe that God will somehow make my path cross with that of my future "king" eventually no matter what.

What are your perspectives/advice on this issue? My aim is to please God and him alone, I desire to date and get married but are some of my thought processes wrong?


P.S Please keep the questions coming in and I promise to be prompt at posting them (so help me God!)

Happy New Year

I know we are 8 days late but better late than never, right? :)

For now we leave you with this poem

"This New Year brings

Another Year

Renewing Hope...

Dispelling care.

And may we find

Before the end,

A deep content...

Another friend"

Arch Ward

Here's to great and solid relationships formed and renewed in 2013.

See you around people
xxx