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Tuesday, 2 August 2011

Single and Happy Part 2.

Hello People!

We hope you have been keeping well? We apologise (yet again) for the infrequent blog posts.

Here's a continuation from last time's post on being single and happy. We have the pleasure of having Rita of eroinspirations share her experience with us.

Let us know your thoughts. Stay blessed

The Soulsistas


When I was single, I could not understand how someone could be single and happy. I felt that once I had a partner, even if it was just a boyfriend, I would be happy and complete. It was not easy hearing about every other person's boyfriend, engagement and ultimately marriage. It was not easy knowing my closest friend was having her 2nd child while I was still struggling to find Mr. Right. I know it is not easy to be single and happy.

Happiness is a condition of supreme well-being, good spirits and cheerfulness. It is also being at peace with yourself because you know you've done your best. It is accepting and rejoicing in who you are. It's experiencing joy in simply being alive. It is having your life to be a wonderful adventure, a way of living that will cause you to say with pride, joy and passion, "I've lived a good life!" Happiness was not going to come through money, shopping, fame, education or material possessions. Sadly, happiness was not going to come from anybody (there are people who are married who are not happy). No one and nothing outside of yourself can make you genuinely happy. If you want to be single and happy, you need to do something different with and about yourself. Believe it or not, people are drawn to those that are happy.

Let me share this illustration. This is a story of 2 brothers who are twins. One grows up to be an alcoholic. The other becomes an extremely successful businessman. When the alcoholic is asked why he became a drunk, her replies, "My father was a drunk". When the successful businessman is asked why he became successful, he says, "My father was a drunk". Same background, same upbringing but different choices [culled from 'Choose the Happiness Habit', by Pam Golden, page 11].

The key word here is choice. Ruth is a woman whose life exemplifies the outcome of making good choices. She had the choice of walking away from her mother-in-law, but she stayed and her story had a happy ending [Ruth 1:16-17]. Like everything in life that required choices, I learnt that happiness was a choice. And the only way to make happiness a part of me was to make it a habit. A habit is formed when you do something repeatedly. While I was waiting on God for a spouse, I realized I had to learn to be happy while single, and make it a habit. I took some steps of building the happiness habit for 90 days using the self help book "Choose The Happiness Habit by Pam Golden". (This is in no way a marketing strategy. I am only using this medium to share with you what helped me in moving from a disgruntled single lady to a happy single lady). I learnt how to be happy by myself, appreciate God, everything around me, be positive and value people.

I pray you find a way to be happy while single and realize that nothing or no one can make you really happy.



  1. Yes, it is ALL about choices!

    Thanks for sharing.

  2. Life (& all about it inclusive of happiness) is a choice.

  3. :-)
    enjoyed reading this..applies to guys as much as to ladies.


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